how to get rid of your past
Living in the past is something which affects many individuals nowadays. If you live in the past, it means that your body is physically present in the present time; however, you mind keeps thinking about events which happened in your life a long time ago. The bad thing about living in the past is that your emotions and attention are also captivated in your past life. As a result, it is not possible to get ahead in life.
The ambassador of peace, Prem Rawat, said: "Every moment has a momentous gift for you." He endeavors to share messages of peace to promote well-being in us. Indeed, he wants to attract our attention that we should not waste any time of our precious life for nothing; instead, it is essential that we do well to ourselves by enjoying all the moments in life. Therefore, what should we do to focus our attention in the present? Here are some helpful suggestions.
Take some time for yourself
To forget your past, the first thing to do is to take some time to listen to yourself. It can be done at a time when you are by yourself, in the morning if possible, before doing your work. Tranquility is necessary because if it is noisy, or if the TV is on, you won't be able to give some time for yourself.
Through all the stages, it is worth noting that you can do these through the guidance of the Supreme Being, or through meditation. It all depends on you.
Listen to a piece of music
To help you focus on the process, it is good listen to the music which often reminds you of the painful past event. It might hurt a lot, but it is essential to do in order to achieve this goal. For example, if a certain song helps you relive a specific past event, then, listen to it, and move on to the next step.
Focus and analyze the situation
The next step consists of focusing on a problematic issue, which happened some time in your past. This stage can be quite painful as you have to relive the situation. During this stage, it is advisable to keep calm and transcend above your Self, and try to ask yourself some questions, for example:
- Why do I feel bad about that situation?
- What might have caused such and such to act that way?
- And why do I still feel bad about it?
- What could I have done differently?
- But why didn't I do it then?
Bring the situation to the present
At this stage, it is necessary to find ways to remedy the situation by asking yourself: "What can I do now to improve the situation and get rid of my negative feelings?" After asking this question, it is important to listen to your Self because this is when you know what to do. This is another important stage because it helps you get rid of your past feelings and be at peace with yourself and with the others.
Forgive and forget
The next step consists of forgiving anyone who might have caused the past troubles, including yourself if you were involved in it. By forgiving, you will be totally relieved from the trap of the past. Whoever hurt your feelings, and whatever they did, it is time to forgive and forget the past. The key to forgetting the past is by forgiving.
Be at peace with yourself and with the others
The last stage is transformation; this means, change the negative life into a positive one. After forgiving, think about what good deeds you can do those who caused the negativity in you. At this stage, it is crucial to bear in mind that revenge will create more negative feelings.
Instead, it is vital that you think about doing something good to those who harmed your feelings. It can consist of praying for them, or in giving them what they need to make you feel at peace with each other. If the person is not present, you can do something good to other people, like to those deprived or sick people around us.
The Prem Rawat Foundation (TPRF), for example, produces electronic tablets with peace education, which will help rehabilitate inmates. You can also volunteer in charity acts and other humanitarian acts and enjoy the momentous gift in front of you.